Lunchbox: Observing Thought Fluctuations for a Calm Mind

The mind can be a mischievous companion, much like that kid in kindergarten who swiped your lunchbox just to see your face squish with surprise. Inside our head, it can feel like an unruly classroom, with some thoughts lined up and polite and others climbing on the desks and shouting, “Look at me!”

Even when we sit down with the so-called “good kids” of our mind, along comes Fred the prankster, whispering, “Your lunch looks yucky.” One moment, we’re full of sunshine, then bam—the clouds roll in. Dude, really?

This is the trickster nature of thought. We intend to show up as the kind kid, the generous one, the balanced one—but sometimes the mental playground just gets rowdy. The real practice begins when we notice this and step into the role of the witness.

We can’t always control the classroom, but we can learn to guide the energy, redirect the noise, and slowly, steadily, rewire the way the mind shows up.

As the Buddha reminds us:

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"You only lose what you cling to."

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The Lunch Menu of the Mind

Think about this: in the morning, you decide on Indian food for lunch. Curry! Samosas! Delicious. Done deal. Then halfway through your jog, sushi barges into your imagination with steaming miso soup. A little later, salad pops up, fresh greens on a terrace under the sun.

Then out of nowhere, Greek food appears, olives and feta sparkling like a revelation. And just as you’ve nearly convinced yourself of the perfect choice, beep! Your phone reminds you of a noon appointment, and it’s take-away after all.

The mind loves this game of shifting menus.

And often, we’re not even aware how many times it’s happening each day. Are we that child who can’t decide between the monkey bars or the slide? Probably. And that’s okay, it’s human.

The Wizard Behind the Curtain

Beneath all this is something deeper, like the Wizard of Oz hidden behind the screen—pulling levers, changing voices, stirring up winds. We think we’re steering the kite, but sometimes the kite’s got a mind of its own, soaring off in directions we didn’t plan.

And here’s the twist: the kite doesn’t have to be the enemy. With a little mindfulness, we learn to loosen the grip on the string, letting it dance without dragging us through the mud. When we pause, breathe, and observe, the flapping kite becomes less chaos and more play.

Nature shows us this lesson constantly. The river doesn’t apologize for changing course; it simply flows. The forest canopy doesn’t fight the wind; it bends and sways. Our thoughts, like wind and water, are not wrong; they just move. Awareness is what keeps us grounded in the midst of all that motion.

A Simple Practice for a Calm Mind

When the monkey mind starts swinging wildly, here’s a gentle anchor:Pause. Notice your breath, not in a heavy way, but lightly, like a leaf resting on the surface of a pond. Feel the rise and fall, the soft rhythm of your chest.

Then picture each thought as a train passing by. See the cars, the colors, and the graffiti, but resist the urge to jump aboard. Let them roll by as you remain standing on the platform, grounded and present.

If you’re outside, take it into the natural world. Choose a tree, a flower, or even a patch of grass to be your “anchor.” Let your attention rest there whenever the mind wants to chase a new idea. Over time, this little practice rewires the way your inner classroom behaves. Less chaos. More calm.

The Bow of the Rice

Humility, patience, and awareness soften the sharp edges of the mind. When we practice presence, we bend gently toward our true self—ripe with kindness, rooted in calm, and playful in our choices.

And once we’ve glimpsed this calm? Well, then it’s simple. We can just go have lunch.

Cheers,

Kether

Spunky Mind

"The riper the rice, the more deeply it bows."

Japanese Proverb

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The mind is playful, curious, and sometimes downright tricky. These Field Notes invite you to pause and notice how your thoughts shift, swirl, and wander—just like clouds across a wide sky. By writing it down, you give the monkey mind a gentle perch, allowing your deeper awareness to shine through.

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